Dissolving the Daycare Dilemma

Hi! My name is Meghan and I’m the Mommy at RatnamResidence. Melinda has graciously invited me to guest post (my first!) here at Todayi. Thanks, Melinda…and here we go…

Choosing a day care provider is a daunting task for new parents.  The first time around it was overwhelming, to say the least.  I didn’t know where to start, what to expect, and how to go about making such an important decision

The second time around, we’ve got a handle on things…and we didn’t have to wait until our second child to perfect this process.  Our son, Avery’s, daycare informed us they were closing – in less than 3 weeks!  We put on our thinking caps and running shoes and within a week, we had him enrolled in a new daycare.  Call it a blessing in disguise, because we are thrilled about this new daycare and can’t wait for him to start!

So, how did we go from no daycare to the perfect daycare… in just a week?!  A little luck, yes.  A dash of good timing?  Yup.  Add two devoted parents, and it was a recipe for success!  After going thru this TWO times before our son turned 10 months, we’ve perfected the process…

#1 Start Early!

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What scared me most about finding a new daycare, was finding one in time.  Some places have year long waiting lists (seriously!) – which is why I freaked when we had only 3 weeks to find a new one.  After sitting down that night with my husband, Vinay, (and a bottle of wine) we decided to hit the ground running the next morning and exhaust all possibilities to make this happen…

#3 Look Everywhere!

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But before the night was over, I had my first opportunity to start getting the word out.  I saw my neighbor and gave it a shot in the dark.  That resulted in one post-it with a name and number.  The next morning between conference calls and working, I googled my heart out – sent emails to all possible places, made some calls, and told everyone I saw at work.  Another shot in the dark, but my coworker forwarded the message along to his daughters and the next day they had a name and number for me too.

#3 Narrow Down Your Results

With our limited window to find a daycare fast, we had to narrow down all places we found.  How?  We used these factors:

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  • Type: nanny, in-home daycare, center/facility 
  • Location 
  • Tuition Cost
  • Hours 
  • Staff/Child ratio 

These factors quickly knocked a few off the list because they are available on a website or can be answered with a quick phone call.  Most places are super-pricey… so they were off the list (Sorry, I’m not paying $2,000 a month for childcare!)  The closer the place is to our home and commute route, the more appealing because Avery doesn’t care for car rides and the longer the ride, the more crying and squirming from the back seat.  We had to make sure they were open early enough for drop off, and open late enough for pick up – This wasn’t a big issue because we were planning for Vinay to do drop off after I head to work, and I’ll pick up before Vinay’s day is over.  And with that, we were down to two potentials… both of which were the shots in the dark to my coworker and neighbor!

#4 Visit Potentials, and Ask Questions!

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This is where I have to add the most important thing I learned during this process – don’t knock it before you try it!  We thought we wanted an in-home daycare, but after touring one in-home and one center, I knew I liked the center MUCH more.

When we toured the in-home daycare, we liked the ‘gram & gramp’ type couple that ran it, the homey feeling, the location – 5 minutes from home, was financially possible, and hours met our needs.  However, we didn’t like the lack of safety… there were no safety gates or locks on cabinets and there were two infants starting in the fall in addition to the 6 kiddos there already were, so how much attention would Avery get?

The tour of the center was awesome.  Although the number of children was 45, there was 1 teacher (early childhood education) and 1 assistant per room (6-8 kiddos), so we knew Avery would get tons of attention.  The hours and location met our needs.  The price was a little more than the in-home daycare, but not out of our price range.  And what impressed us the most was the curriculum based around play, the enthusiastic staff, big outdoor playground, safety gates and locks on everything!  I loved the idea that Avery would be learning, not just being watched.

After our tour we were practically decided on the center.  But I still followed up with references…

#5 Call References

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I was given 3 numbers.  I called all three and got rave reviews.  One mom told me “I give (center name) almost full credit for my kids knowing their ABCs, colors, and shapes”  Another stressed the sense of community and how you meet and get to know all the staff after some time, so when your child switches to a new room, you already know their new teacher.  Making those 3 calls sealed the deal.

#6 Decide & Stay Involved

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After touring the two options Thursday & Friday, we let it sit for the weekend, and on Monday, we were still sure, and thrilled actually, to make the call and reserve the spot!  Now, we’re counting down the days before Avery starts his new daycare.  We know it’ll take some adjusting with pick-up and drop-off and his schedule, but we’re determined to stay involved.  Avery will get ‘report cards’ to note his eating, sleeping, diaper changing thru the day – and we were so impressed with the staff that we know the communication will be great….

And with that, our daycare dilemma was dissolved!

What was the deciding factors that sealed the deal for you when looking for a daycare provider

image sources: clock, google, check-list, raised hands, phone, report card

10 Things I Learned About Being a New Mom

Today I…would like to share about life with an almost 2-month old. I can’t believe it’s been almost 2 months already! Things have been going very smoothly. I feel very lucky to have such a good little girl. She does cry, but only when she needs something. Lately, she’s been more active during the day and loves looking at things. It must be so exciting to see the world for the first time…like, can you imagine what you were thinking the first time you saw a tree or an animal? It must have been brain candy and so visually stimulating! Eddie has also been doing so great as a dad. He’s the ultimate swaddler! He’s also really good at changing diapers! Lol. I have the best husband. :)

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10 Things I Learned About Being a New Mom

Sorry for the lack of a post yesterday. To be honest, (and I hope I don’t sound like I’m complaining too much) I’ve been exhausted these last couple days. I don’t know what it is, but last night I could have sworn she woke up every hour to feed. I vaguely remember looking at the time in the middle of the night and seeing 12am, 1am, 2am, 3am…etc. I thought to myself, “Is she serious?” I guess my baby is growing and she’s experiencing growing pains. That’s all I could attribute it to because it was very odd to me. Anyhow, don’t get me wrong, I love being a mom so far! To be completely serious, I could see myself having another one already. I know…I know..I’m crazy right?!? As much as it is exhausting, and life changing..All I have to do is stare at my baby and my heart melts. But, we want to wait at least 2 years so we’ll be praying for that one.

Meanwhile, I’ve been learning a lot. Each day I learn something new about her. She is constantly changing and growing!

 

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Happy Thursday! (Wow..I can’t believe it’s Thursday already!)

10 Things I Learned About Being a New Mom

Today I…thought I’d share my progress as of 1 month. I can’t believe how fast time flies! I’m still learning things each and every day. Please forgive me if my posts aren’t making too much sense, I’ve been in a daze lately..feeling like a zombie sometimes! Lol. I don’t even know what day of the week it is half the time.

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10 Things I Learned About Being a New Mom

Today I…would like to share my progress after 2 weeks with a new baby. First of all, it’s going pretty smoothly. It’s amazing how fast time goes! Today she’s 2 weeks old already! It feels like just yesterday I was in the hospital pushing her out of me. The most valuable bonding time I’ve shared with her thus far is during the feeding sessions. It’s also been a very big blessing to have Eddie home for a week. Now that he’s back to work, I realize that when it was just us 3, we shared many special moments together. Well, here’s to a successful 2 weeks! Enjoy!

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*NEW COLUMN*

Today I…would like to introduce you to a new column. It’s sort of a reflective piece again ( I like reflecting apparently) that I found helpful when other new moms posted about things. I’m not really sure what this blog is  going to become. Now that I have a child, I’ve got BABY on the mind 24/7, although I don’t want to smother all of you with my rants about this and that. I just hope to provide some comfort to all the new moms out there who may be as clueless and fearful, yet excited, like myself. I’m sort of at the transitional stage in my life where all of my friends are starting to have kids so it’s always helpful to guide each other and learn from each other. I’m all about education!

***BEGIN TANGENT***

Funny story about that last sentence by the way… During my 28hr labor (I’ll save that for another post), 2 student nurses (1 male, 1 female) asked if they could witness my labor and delivery. At first I was reluctant, I even asked my husband amidst the contractions and the discomfort, “Eddie, do you mind if another guy sees me? (referring to my female parts)” He said, “It’s up to you Melinda” and I said, “Well, I can’t say no because its for the sake of education!” Lol. (I don’t know, maybe it was just me who found that funny.Anyway…)

***END TANGENT***

Here’s a new column called “10 Things I Learned About Being A Mom.” I hope someone might find these reflections helpful. Those of you who don’t have kids, or have semi-considered it, but are not ready yet, I totally understand your reservations as well. Childbirth was no easy task, I’ll give you that much! But, they always say…once you look at the child that was made BY YOU..all the pain, fears, reservations all go out the window. I really do mean that.

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10 Things…

Now that I’m nearing the end of this 9-month journey, I thought it best to reflect on my pregnancy experience thus far. First of all, I feel really blessed. This pregnancy has been probably the EASIEST pregnancy a woman could ever have. I’m not trying to flaunt this or make myself seem special or anything, but honestly I hardly had any issues. Everything pretty much went by the book. I never had morning sickness (not once), never had any weird cravings or food aversions, didn’t have gestational diabetes where I had to watch what I ate ( I pretty much ate everything I normally would have eaten, even had the occasional sushi kick). Don’t judge me. Who knows what will happen with the labor part… maybe I’m in for a rude awakening, but if I had to sum up this whole entire journey..it has been MIRACULOUS! Also, I feel like I didn’t spend an overwhelming amount of money on setting up a nursery (b/c I know that can be a financial burden for some), which is a huge blessing. If you know me, I shopped at thrift stores, got a lot of hand-me-down clothes from cousins (Thank you Jay, Risha, Ron, & Yvette) which I’m all about, even accumulated great furniture pieces …a swing (Thanks Holly), high-chair, play yard, & bouncer) without having to spend any money at all. God is so good. To this day, I haven’t purchased (on my own) one item of clothing..wait..I lied. I did buy her baptism dress already, but that doesn’t count! But, besides that, all her clothes have been gifts and given to me. I’m sure that’ll change in the near future, but I feel like I’m off to a solid start.

So all that is left is the labor and delivery part. All I can say is..I’m getting a little antsy, but I am MOST DEFINITELY enjoying this time at home to get everything ready, spending some quality time with friends before things get crazy, organizing, then reorganizing, cleaning, etc. I’m also so thankful to have a loving husband who has been incredibly supportive the ENTIRE way. I know he doesn’t read this, but guys, he REALLY is awesome! I could not have imagined going through this journey by myself. He’s getting excited too, I can tell!

Well folks, that’s all for now…thank you for staying with me during this journey. Here are “10 Things I’ve learned” that I hope will one day help someone else: